The Honeymoon Stage of Starting a Business

When my husband and I first got married, I learned an important lesson very early on –my husband was not a mind reader.  If I wanted or needed something, I had to ask for it.  Overnight my marriage changed, and my husband is now the most supportive person I’ve ever known.  My morning proof –breakfast in bed.

I’ve come to realize that just like the honeymoon stage of a marriage, when we are in the honeymoon stage of starting a business, we do and think naive things.

A few weeks ago, when I was looking over the strides I made in the first 6 months of my business, and mapping out what I hopped to accomplish in 2011, I concluded that maybe this is the piece of the puzzle that’s missing.  My business will grow much faster if I ask more people to support my work and me.  No more sitting around with the mentality, “if I build it, they will come”.

In 2011, I will help my business grow by asking:

  • Would you like to publish my quilt in your magazine?
  • Would you like to do wholesale with me?
  • Would you consider me to be an artist in your fine art show?
  • May I do a guest post on your blog?
  • Would you offer me some advice?

My moment for this week came the other day when I emailed someone I really admire, and asked her for some help, some mentoring, some advise, and as busy as she was, she said, “Yes!”.

Will I always get a “yes”?  Of course not –maybe that’s how my business is different from my marriage, haha.  Yet, if I don’t start asking more, I fear my business might not grow as fast, or as beautifully as my marriage has.

image credit: PearsonMaron – Handmade Monster Magnets and Miniature Art Sculptures on Etsy


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15 observations on “The Honeymoon Stage of Starting a Business
  1. Amanda Shelley Davis

    I wanted to take some entrepreneurial advice from this One Moment but instead I took relationship advice haha. My man is no mind reader either and I really have to start expressing myself to him. Thanks Dr. Flicker!

    1. Angela

      You’re welcome Megan; I’m so glad to hear the post was helpful. We really need to step out of our comfort zones in order to get what we want I think. Good luck to you!

  2. Cyn

    You are so right on. Can’t wait to see how your business will grow just from this notion.

    AND you just gave me an idea for the “A” print I’ve been struggling to create! “don’t be afraid to ask for what you want (just do it politely)” Sweet!

    1. Angela

      Thanks Cyn. I’m so glad you thought of a print too. That’s awesome! I love it! Send me a link when you’re finished; I’d love to see how it turns out!

    1. Angela

      I don’t know, rejection can be pretty difficult too 😉 But the best things often come when you ask and people say yes, you know? And those great things often out weigh the rejection you might receive.

      Thanks for the great comment!

  3. Kristina P.

    I think this is a great life lesson. You have to work at it. My coworker loves The Secret. I like the idea of positive energy, but the video makes it seem that all you have to do is think it, and it will happen. It doesn’t talk about hard work.

    1. Angela

      I totally agree. Yes, I believe in thinking positive and sometimes things do fall in my lap, but for the most part I think you got to step out and make stuff happen.

  4. kristen

    great point Angela! what an ah ha moment (for you and me, haha). I learned the same with my husband early on. As long as I communicate with him he supports me in every way possible it’s when I just “think” he should do this or that is when we get into trouble. The simple task of asking can be so powerful!

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  6. Sue Mitchell

    Wow, what great insight into both business and marriage! Creative pursuits are like relationships in so many ways. Recognizing that can really help with the whole mindset thing. 🙂

    I’m someone who has a really hard time asking for help, but like you, I’ve discovered that it is critical to success as an entrepreneur. This is just too hard to do alone! I see my independence and do-it-yourself nature as great strengths, but it’s important to know when and how to reach out. Thanks for that reminder.


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